‘They didn’t even tell me they were going’: Teenage daughter reveals her dad secretly

A teenage girl has revealed how she felt ‘hurt’ and ‘excluded’ when her dad secretly took his new family to Paris without her – sparking an online debate about who was in the wrong in the situation. 

The 16-year-old discovered she had been left out of the holiday when her stepbrother shared a TikTok video from the trip to the French capital with her dad, stepmum and two stepbrothers. 

Taking to Reddit, she wrote: ‘I would have loved to be there but they didn’t even tell me they were going.’

The girl, who was staying with her mother at the time, said she texted her dad ‘immediately’ asking if they were enjoying the trip. In his response, she claimed he ‘tried to play dumb’ by saying that he wished she could be there. 

When the daughter pointed out that he could have taken her too, he explained that ‘it wasn’t possible’ and promised they’d talk about it later, she claimed. 

A teenage girl has revealed how she felt ‘hurt’ and ‘excluded’ when her dad took his new family to Paris without her 

After their return, she opened up to her father and revealed that she was ‘hurt’ he hadn’t taken her along on the holiday. 

But his response, she claimed, was that ‘their finances are very tight’ and the holiday ‘was a gift from the stepmum’s parents’. She remarked: ‘He reminded me that I shouldn’t act in an entitled way.’ 

The daughter told fellow Redditors that she ‘wasn’t convinced’. She explained that her step-family was ‘very rich’ and thus, she argued, she was being taken for a ‘fool’. 

She said: ‘They could have refused to go without me, paid for me themselves, gone somewhere cheaper, stayed a little less longer, or asked my mum to pitch in – and she would have.

‘Me not being there was exclusionary… I told my dad that I was disappointed in him.’

Later, the step-grandmother came to her bedroom to explain that they had gifted the trip to their grandchildren and ‘couldn’t afford’ to include her.

In her response, the daughter said she told the grandmother: ‘I’m a stranger to you and you don’t care about me.’ Using coarse language, she then ordered her to leave her room.

The daughter remarked: ‘She left and I heard her telling my dad that I was very rude to her, so I’m grounded until further notice.’ 

The 16-year-old discovered she had been left out of the holiday when her stepbrother shared a TikTok video from the trip to the French capital with her dad, stepmum and two stepbrothers 

Writing in July last year, she asked Redditors whether she was acting ‘like an entitled brat’ and was in the wrong. 

Her question sparked a flurry of responses which have since resurfaced in recent reports of the debate.

Many people empathised with the girl and supported her reaction to the trip.

‘DarKMuraudeR’ said: ‘They could have gifted something for the whole family but they didn’t. Your dad didn’t decline and say if his daughter can’t go, he won’t be going.’

‘OddAsk9838’ said she was ‘right to be mad’, saying: ‘The fact your dad did not tell you and did not even bother to try and find a way to make it work shows you what kind of man he is.

‘Please ask to move to your mum’s 100 per cent. He has made his choice, and his family is very comfortable treating you like garbage. Don’t take it.’

‘Reditor’ also encouraged the girl to move in with her mum, commenting: ‘Dad has shown her that he has a new family now. The cold hard truth is that he simply doesn’t care about her.

‘Move to your mother’s permanently. Your father has shown you where his priorities lie, and they are not with you.’

Meanwhile, user ‘These-Coat-3164′ said the worst part was that the daughter found out on social media when the family were already in Paris.

‘Her dad didn’t even have the nerve to tell her about the trip in advance,’ they wrote.

Not all users echoed these sentiments – some were quick to defend the dad.

In a comment that earned more than 900 upvotes, ‘Its_Like_Whatever_OK’ said that the step-grandparents ‘don’t owe her a vacation’ because ‘she isn’t their grandchild’. But the user also quipped that her dad ‘should’ve been upfront’ about the trip.

In a similar vein, ‘SwiftAlliegator’ said the step-grandparents are ‘not really obligated’ to treat the girl as their granddaughter.

They remarked it was the stepmum who ‘made a choice to marry a man with a daughter, but her parents didn’t’.

Focusing more on the teenager’s exchange with her step-grandmother, ‘Quix66′ said: ‘Cursing an adult – the grandmother – is bratty and deserving of punishment.’

Echoing their sentiments, ‘TheLyz’ commented: ‘She could have been a little nicer to the step-grandma, but yeah, I’d be pretty upset too.’