Idina Menzel shares why she stopped IVF: ‘You just start to change your view on what you
Idina Menzel is talking about her parenting journey.
The Disenchanted star, whose career-spanning documentary Idina Menzel: Which Way to the Stage? is currently available to stream on Disney+, appeared on Dear Media’s podcast Not Skinny But Not Fat with Amanda Hirsch this week to discuss her personal and professional life.
Menzel, who shares her 13-year-old son Walker with her ex-husband Taye Diggs, spoke about trying to have another child through IVF with her husband Aaron Lohr, whom she married in 2017. The singer and actress was initially unsure if she wanted to pursue marriage and parenthood for a second time.
“I saw how incredible [Aaron] was with my son and they had this super, super bond that just happened organically and I think he started to become more confident in the kind of father he could be — and then you start to want that for him,” Menzel shared. “And then my son was saying he wanted a sibling and … I still had those maternal feelings, and so then we tried — but it was just too late to try. But the doctors would say, ‘You know, well, actually for your age. you still … have a good count of eggs and follicles and all that stuff,’ which was so annoying to talk about — it sounds so clinical. They kept my hope going a little bit, to be [in the] small percentage of women that get pregnant when they’re older.”
The Broadway star, who is now 51, said that while undergoing IVF to try and have a second baby, she experienced “miscarriages and just so many cycles that didn’t take,” leading her to reevaluate her plans.
“The fact that we tried so hard meant so much to him,” Menzel said of deciding with Lohr to stop IVF. “It wears you down to the point where you’re like, ‘It wasn’t meant to be.’ I have this incredible son. Just, incrementally, you just start to change your view on what you want in life, if you’re trying to push for something that isn’t there. We’ve reconciled that feeling, and we’re good.”
The Wicked alum also talked about how she has built a successful co-parenting relationship with Diggs, noting that Diggs and Lohr will often sit together at Walker’s events, even if they don’t “get a beer” afterwards.
“My co-parenting situation is something I’m pretty proud of,” she noted. “We don’t speak disparagingly of one another. Because of that, to Taye’s credit, he is so supportive of [Aaron and Walker’s relationship], that Walker can kind of go back and forth between houses and hug them both in front of each other and say ‘Love you,’ and Walker doesn’t feel that kind of guilt or awkwardness. We’re good on that front.”
Menzel previously spoke to People earlier this month about why she wanted to open up about her personal life in the Disney+ documentary. She explained, “No matter what the outcome, I just wanted women to feel seen in this film and people to understand what we go through. It was important to me to forgo the privacy of that and allow people to have a little window into that experience.”
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